How do I help my child with separation anxiety at drop-off?
Keep goodbyes short and warm, tell your child exactly when you will be back, and repeat the same routine every visit. Most children settle within two or three visits once they know the place and the people.
Before you arrive
- Talk about the visit in advance: "Today you will paint while Mama has a meeting."
- Make sure your child has eaten and slept.
- Bring a small comfort object if they have one.
At the door
- Stay a few minutes and help them start an activity.
- Say goodbye clearly. Do not sneak out; it breaks trust.
- Name a return point they understand: "after the story", "after snack".
When you come back
Arrive on time and ask about what they made, not whether they missed you. Pride in what they did builds confidence for next time.
What not to do
Avoid long, emotional goodbyes and coming back repeatedly. They tell your child something is wrong.
At Luciole, our team greets each child and starts them on a hands-on activity right away. Busy hands settle worried hearts faster.
More questions parents ask
How long does separation anxiety last?
For most children, it eases after a few visits once the place and people feel familiar. Consistency matters more than the length of each visit.
Should I sneak out so my child does not cry?
No. Sneaking out can make children more anxious next time. A clear, calm goodbye builds trust.
Does it help to visit together first?
Yes. A first visit together, or a short session while you sit in the café, helps your child learn the space while you are close.