Is it okay to take time for myself as a mom?
Yes. Taking a few hours for yourself is not selfish. Rested, less stressed parents are more patient and more present with their children, and children benefit from time with other kids and caring adults.
Where the guilt comes from
Many moms feel they should be available every minute. But children do not need us every minute. They need us calm, warm and there when it matters.
Small ways to take time back
- A coffee alone, even thirty minutes
- A walk, a workout or a nap
- Lunch with a friend
- A date night with your partner
- A doctor's appointment you keep postponing
What your child gains
Time in a safe, fun space with other kids builds independence and confidence. And a happy mom at pick-up is the best part of their day.
That is why Jinane and Sophanie created Luciole: a place where children create, and moms can pause and connect.
More questions parents ask
How do I stop feeling guilty?
Remind yourself that your child is safe, busy and happy. The guilt usually fades after the first few times, when you see how much they enjoyed it.
How often is okay?
Whatever rhythm works for your family. Even a couple of hours once a week can make a real difference.
What if my partner is not convinced?
Try it together first: a lunch for the two of you while the kids join a workshop nearby.